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Look I will give you an advice. Do not let the women control the expenses of weddings because there is too much comparison and competition between each other and you end up being the victim. Do what I did, I told them that I will take care of all costs, but I do what I want. All they had to do was turn up to the wedding.

I booked the hall, the car, the camerawoman, the music, the jewellery, the timing the honeymoon trip. Took me two weeks to do. I can honestly say that my wedding came out approximately 50% cheaper than many of the other Algerian weddings here.

The trick is, the timing has to be perfect. Book a time where majority are out of the country and you will see how smoothly your wedding will go.

I've seen weddings where the women planned it and I went to one last week. The women had a fit, half the room was covered in niqabis and half in open-minded Algerians... they had a huge argument whether Sami Yusuf music is halal or not. Completely disorganised.

El Mohim, I feel that many families these days do not value wlid el hlal anymore. It's all about how much you make!... Do not undervalue yourself and believe me, do what Allah swt hs willed for you within reasonable means. Never go into debt because of marriage
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'half the room was covered in niqabis and half in open-minded Algerians... '
very funny,
mabrouk 3lihoum any way.

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El Mohim, I feel that many families these days do not value wlid el hlal anymore. It's all about how much you make!... Do not undervalue yourself and believe me, do what Allah hs willed for you within reasonable means. Never go into debt because of marriage


Very true and very well said bro

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Do what I did, I told them that I will take care of all costs, but I do what I want. All they had to do was turn up to the wedding


Although it might be true that many women do feel the need to compete with others in regards to how 'big' their wedding is, I don't think it's fair to completely disregard a bride in the decision making. It is her wedding after all, most brides dream about that day since their childhood.
Negotiations and setting budgets are key.

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You've put me in a wedding mood now lol.
What I find extremely annoying, when the bride decided to wear a 'sari' for her wedding (some even dance to Punjabi MC :lol: ), mazal macheftch Pakistaniya labset el karakou in her wedding, and danced to 'rana djinak' ! (btw Pakistanis have really good weddings).

Done is better than perfect.


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It is her wedding after all, most brides dream about that day since their childhood.
Negotiations and setting budgets are key.


If that's the case, then her dad is more than welcome to contribute :D

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Why not lol, mchi khsara fi bentah smile.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />
Or she can pitch in herself, like stated before it is her wedding after all :P

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Or she can pitch in herself, like stated before it is her wedding after all :P


which planet is this on? are we still talking about Algerians??

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Lol, Beebo it isn't that uncommon. It's definitely not a 50-50 partition but they nonetheless pitch in sometimes.
Although the women have a tendency to keep it a secret because in their eyes it makes their groom seem like less of a man because he can't afford a lavish wedding on his own - or something along those lines...

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Lol, Beebo it isn't that uncommon. It's definitely not a 50-50 partition but they nonetheless pitch in sometimes.
Although the women have a tendency to keep it a secret because in their eyes it makes their groom seem like less of a man because he can't afford a lavish wedding on his own - or something along those lines...


yea.. waste money to show to the world what you're capable of then end up paying for it for the rest of your life... genius!! <_<

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Eh oui, they live for others and not for themselves...
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Eh oui, they live for others and not for themselves...


Very well said sis! smile.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />

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Beebo, never fall for the L'Oreal Advert: "because am worth it....." :no2:
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My father always complained about money except in his daughters' weddings, that's what I like about him. Anyhow, a perfect weeding for me is between my closest narrowest family and friends and his, no more than 40 people, (40 is already bezaf) a nice delicious dinner, good cosy talks between closest friends and family, midnight koll wahed ytir l darhom, tagsira ya3aqlo 3liha. Seriously, does the bride and the groom know who the 200 people there are? It's a special occasion to celebrate with full consciousness and never to forget, mashi feel like a doll watched at by 200 persons or more who tomorrow will only remember what went wrong during the night or when you almost fell on the floor because you felt shied when 400 eyes were looking at you when you were dancing with this strange man to become your husband. :D
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Beebo, never fall for the L'Oreal Advert: "because am worth it....." :no2:


lol fatony, mazalek qarzaz (mech'hah) kima mdari? c bien!

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My father always complained about money except in his daughters' weddings, that's what I like about him. Anyhow, a perfect weeding for me is between my closest narrowest family and friends and his, no more than 40 people, (40 is already bezaf) a nice delicious dinner, good cosy talks between closest friends and family, midnight koll wahed ytir l darhom, tagsira ya3aqlo 3liha. Seriously, does the bride and the groom know who the 200 people there are? It's a special occasion to celebrate with full consciousness and never to forget, mashi feel like a doll watched at by 200 persons or more who tomorrow will only remember what went wrong during the night or when you almost fell on the floor because you felt shied when 400 eyes were looking at you when you were dancing with this strange man to become your husband. :D
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That is an ideal wedding ya khti Meriem. If you say those things in al khaleej, straight away you will be frowned upon, you will be told that Tafkeerek Qdeem... Wellahi if the woman knows her duties well and can look after her house, I would say that kind of woman deserves what she wants in her wedding and after. But the girls of today, girls of facebook, el mohim.. khalliha 3la llah..

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My father always complained about money except in his daughters' weddings, that's what I like about him. Anyhow, a perfect weeding for me is between my closest narrowest family and friends and his, no more than 40 people, (40 is already bezaf) a nice delicious dinner, good cosy talks between closest friends and family, midnight koll wahed ytir l darhom, tagsira ya3aqlo 3liha. Seriously, does the bride and the groom know who the 200 people there are? It's a special occasion to celebrate with full consciousness and never to forget, mashi feel like a doll watched at by 200 persons or more who tomorrow will only remember what went wrong during the night or when you almost fell on the floor because you felt shied when 400 eyes were looking at you when you were dancing with this strange man to become your husband. :D
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Well said sis.. unfortunately not all girls think like that nowadays

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well the boys are saying well said because my theory has granted peace to their wallets, well, it seems like I forgot to mention that mr.Hubby still has to pay a honeymoon trip to Maldives :D :D lol

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well the boys are saying well said because my theory has granted peace to their wallets, well, it seems like I forgot to mention that mr.Hubby still has to pay a honeymoon trip to Maldives :D :D lol


Well that's worth paying money for.... unlike unnecessary expenses on expensive wedding dinners and parties. Atleast this would be something the couple would enjoy and benefit from :P





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